Albannach
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(Originally posted on: 01-25-10 08:41:18 PM)
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So something really awesome and really weird happened to me.
About six months before I got married to literally the perfect woman, I started having feelings for another woman.
Let me elaborate. My wife is awesome. We've been married for over a year now, and everything between us is pretty much perfect. That's not to say that we've never fought about anything. We fight all the time, but we're always able to sit down and work something out within a few hours.
And I mean, big fights about finances, housing, and other really stressful crap.
My wife is awesome. She doesn't really care about small bullshit like the toilet seat or cigars (in fact, she'd only be mad at me if she came home to find me smoking a Cigar with some of my buddies and I didn't have an extra one for her.)
And we'd agreed a long time ago that if we ever felt something for another person, we'd immediately tell each other. She's had a crush or two, and so have I. But with this other woman, the feelings were a lot more intense.
Now, this other woman was one of our good friends. But it wasn't a problem, we were graduating soon, and probably wouldn't see her again. And besides, I was probably just having pre-marriage jitters.
I didn't love my then fiancee any less. I still had plenty of feelings for her. It was weird.
So Graduation came, as did marriage, my wife got a really good job offer in the area, I already had a job, so we decided to stick around and plan our next move.
So did our really good friend. Student loans came due for all of us, our good friend's parents kicked her to the curb for her deviant (bdsm/bisexual/etc) nature and radical (anarcho-socialist) politics. Not that she did anything in the home, mind, her father is a fundamentalist who works in IT and tracked down her internet activity.
She didn't have anywhere to go, and she was one of my Wife's and My best friends, so we told her she could sleep on our couch until she got her shit together.
Fast Forward about a month, and to our mutual surprise, my wife starts having feelings for our good friend.
This weirded us all right the fuck out.
But we did some research and discovered something called responsible polyamory.
And after reading through everything, and discovering that this is a pretty common thing (about 500,000 polyamorous families live in the US) we decided that it was only weird because our parents taught us to think that a relationship can only contain two people.
And it's awesome.
Sure, there's drama (and guys, if you think putting up with one woman's emotions and monthly cycle is tough, putting up with two is a fucking herculean effort) but I have two people that love me, and two people that I love, who also love each other.
And we can't tell any of our parents. Our Girlfriend's sister outed us to her family, and we can't tell either of our parents (her parents are 7th day adventists, my parents are conservative catholics, and you would not believe the drama we had to put up with when we decided on a nondenominational christian service for our wedding) and we certainly can't tell anyone in Nowhere, Dixie about what's going on. Which is tough.
Anyway, we're looking for places to get jobs in our respective fields that happen to be in cities. But right now, my home life is awesome.
We have three people to do chores, three incomes, (three student loan bills,) and things are pretty sweet.
We just can't tell anybody, because they would flip their shit. That's the main reason I've been cruising for forums: It's a place to talk about something I can't tell real people about. And if I get the shit flamed out of me, I can always move on. It is the internet after all.
So, what, if anything, does InterestingNoneTheLess think about my life?
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