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i done told you once bitch
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(Originally posted on: 10-19-04 12:46:36 PM)
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Here is my situation. I will try to explain it neutrally and from an unbiased angle so it might not be at bitchy as it could be, but I am mad and would like to know if I am in the wrong for being mad. For the thread we will call my roomate Bertha, and my male friend Tom.
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Last spring, Bertha and Tom were going out. They convinced me to live with them in a three person apartment style suite. I was very reluctant at first, saying "What if you two break up?", "What if it's really awkward?" and a bunch of other stuff. They both 100% promised me that no matter what, there would be no problems and they would be both fine. At the time, they were both acting like mature rational adults and I figured things would work out. I reluctantly agreed to move into an apartment style suite the upcoming term with the couple.
At the end of that school year, they broke up, but things still seemed fine. I go off to a summer camp for the summer to work and when I came back in August, all hell had broken loose.
They hooked up a few times that summer, as they were living in close proximity. The guy was apparently (according to the girl) very flip floppy with his emotions and stuff. As she puts it "he fucked her around". He sees it as them having hooked up, and at the time him still caring about her.
Towards the end of the summer, the guy decides to avoid conflict, it would be in everyone's best interest to not live with us, and drops out. As much as I agreed that it was a bad idea for the three of us to live together, I would rather have lived with him than her. However, I decided that since she was a better influence in terms of academics (goes to class, doesn't smoke pot before midterms) that living with her would be smarter academically.
Meanwhile, the guy is pretty well my best friend at Acadia. (As Coca Cola doesn't go here anymore.) I really do like this guy, and like most best friends on campus, we spend a lot of time together.
My suite has my N64 and a bunch of other cool stuff. It also has a big living room in which we can hang out and stuff and we would like to do so.
However, the girl is very insistant that this guy is not allowed in our suite, especially not with his new girlfriend, (it is now two months down the road from when she alleges he "fucked her over") even though she was planning on living with him in the first place. She also tries to tell me that a number of my other friends are not allowed coming over to the suite because they make her "uncomfortable".
Basically, I just want to be able to hang out with my friends, and also, the third roomate who took Tom's place is also friends with Tom and all my other friends she hates and feels Bertha is being irrational.
In conclusion, I just want to be able to have friends over without her coming out and flipping out on them and causing tension.
I am curious who is at fault? Is it Tom for fucking her over and expecting to be able to come visit me? Is it Bertha for flipping out every time I bring her ex over (who is my best friend)? Is it me for agreeing to live with her and thus getting what I deserve? (They both were very rational and normal when I agreed to live here.)
Overall, she says she doesnt want to talk or see him ever again, which causes a huge problem as there is pretty well no where else we can hang out.
Solutions? Thoughts? Am I just expecting too much of her and being an insensitive asshole?
Help plz. Also elaborate on if him bringing his girlfriend over is 100% out of the moral question. (His girlfriend is really nice and doesn't PDA in front of Bertha and Bertha just hates her because she's dating her ex.)
"You know what I would do in that situation? Fuck my sister." - Coca Cola
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